Dear Stay at Home Mom

Dear stay at home mom,
I am the sister and friend of many stay at home moms, all of whom I love dearly. I understand how hard it is, I know that you look at working away from home moms and envy us at times because we get out of the house, we dress up, we get adult interaction, we can stop in the store for milk on our way home without a child or five.  I also see and know how proud you are to stay at home, how that is your hearts desire, how much you love and adore your children, I see the great satisfaction it brings you to take care of your children and be with them all the time. Us working moms know these things we see it.
Here is a little insight into the working mom, and please note when I say working mom I mean a mom who works away from home, I know stay at home moms work really hard too! We do get out of the house, that is true. We drop our children off with a daycare and we hope and pray all day long that the person caring for our children is good to them. For me we prayed about it and without even trying God brought us a most precious couple to keep Jaxon, they love him so. And of course Cheyenne is in school. Anyway, we drop our babies off, and we miss them, terribly, in fact at times we envy YOU because you get to have your babies all day long! You don't know how our hearts feel when we leave our children, we literally leave our hearts behind and go half empty to work at that job that fulfills another part of our being. Dressing up, this one is quite a hoot, I can count on one hand the amount of times I have shown up at work clean!  I always find snot on my shirt, or oatmeal, milk, you name it. I generally have a pacifier in my pocket, which my students think is funny when I discover it and pull it out. My hair is never perfect, I have kids in the bathroom with me in the morning and sometimes I find I've put my underwear on backwards or a shirt inside out. We envy you, the mom who can stay in her PJs all day if there is no where to go. We do get to interact with adults, but let me tell you, adults are worse then talking to kids all day. Most of them are over grown babies. That is just reality. Not to mention the boss that we have to please, and in my line of work I spend my day pleasing parents, the state, the district, kids, co-workers, a boss and so forth.
When I get off work getting milk without a child is not a pleasure, in fact I rush through it as fast as I can because I cannot wait to hold my children. When I get home I make supper for my family, we eat out rarely, usually only on birthdays or if we are out of town. I cook food every night generally from scratch, hardly ever out of a box. I do homework with my daughter, I get things ready for the next day and make lunches for everyone to take. I too have the responsibility to go to the grocery store and run errands. I am blessed to have a husband that helps out and allows me to shop without my children if I desire. I go during nap time on Saturdays Or early in the morning before the children rise. We make a family trip out of going to SAMs Club. I say this to say, we are tired too! We understand!
The main purpose of this letter is to tell you that we get it, we understand that you need a break sometimes. but we cannot read your minds! If you need a break, or a date with your husband ASK us to watch your kids! We don't stay home all day but we are still mothers and we can keep your child alive and have fun with them while you are gone. Maybe you are to proud to ask, so let me ask you this, what does the Word say about pride? It doesn't mean you are a failure to ask for help or for some adult company or for a date babysitter! If I am your friend, then I love your kids! As a working mom I get the need for a break, I have had a date with my husband one time this year, ONCE. We are just as busy, we have tons of family time, we do not do extra curricular activities because we cherish our family time. I would be soooo happy to trade you date nights, taking turns with each other's kiddos. Please don't wait for us to offer, because chances are we never will, not because we don't care but because we assume everything is great and you have grandparents or other people giving you a break.  Just ASK. Ask us, tell us you need a break and we will be there. We have your back.
To sum this up into the main point is this, no matter if we stay at home or work we should all have each  others back in this thing called motherhood. We are in this together, no matter how we choose to go about doing it and we need to learn to be honest and ask for help, share our help, and encourage one another. Stay at home mom, send a working mom a note of encouragement, we need it too. Working moms, likewise, send a stay at home mom a note of encouragement, she needs it.

Driven to My Knees

Today, December 19th 2013 I am driven to my knees, so many emotions swirl through my heart and mind, I am overcome, overcome with sheer gratitude. I cannot help but get on my knees to praise my Savior on this day. After so much sadness and pain today I get to celebrate my baby boy's 2 year birthday....

Mommytition

Competition spelled.....MOMMYtition...... as mommy's many times it seems everyone around us can do it better, bigger and faster. I don't know about you but I cannot keep up. I have a confession, an un-Christ like confession.

What is Christmas Teaching Our Kids?

The title says it all, what is Christmas teaching our kiddos? Is it teaching them selfishness? A spirit of greed? Or a spirit of generosity and compassion? It depends on how we teach them and what we allow in our homes.

Baby Jude

This is a blog I follow, if you haven't seen it yet, please read it. And then get on your knees and pray for baby Jude. May the Lord keep him strong and in his mothers womb, may infection be gone! In Jesus name!
http://www.themakingofbabyben.com/

Spiritual Battle

Well, I have really been slacking on this blog and for ICL week. Some of you may not understand what I am about to talk about, and some of you might. I am just learning myself.
As many of you know I am dedicated to living my life for Jesus, I do not identify as a Christian or any religion. Instead I identify as a fully devoted follower of Christ. I pray daily that my life is proof that He is real and that He is love.
So that said, I have over the years known there is a spiritual world, I had friends in my younger days that were witches, practicing ones.

Is Spanking Biblical Part 2

So this morning I saw a photo that enraged me, of course it was on Facebook and all sorts of people with different opinions were posting comments. I could not believe some of the comments I read, and how misused Bible verses are. People are using the Bible to justify not just swats but actual BEATINGS. Makes me sick.

Is Spanking Biblical?

Discipline, to spank or not to spank, that is the question. I think as parents most of us struggle with punishment and correction. Kids are not born with instructions, I mean really the baby pops out and there is no instruction sheet to be found! Or is there?

Short n Sweet - Discovery

 So I have talked before about seeing the world through the eyes of a boy. Well my little guy is now 21 months old and discovering everything. I still find myself in awe of the fact that he is here, it is a dream come true. So amazing.....

The Kitchen Floor Needs Mopped

When we date we flirt, we act cute, we dress nice, we bat our eyelashes at our guys, we laugh at jokes, we lean in for the impromptu kiss, we gaze into his eyes, we hang on his every word while smiling and touching his arm. We get married, we have a lot of fun for a few months, and then home life sets in and we have kids and our focus changes. We still love each other dearly, perhaps more than ever before, but our relationship dynamic changes.

Be Thankful

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Colossians 3:15

How many times in this one week have I said thank you to my husband for doing something for me? How many times have I given him an INTENTIONAL thank you and not just an auto response? ONCE.  Yes you read that correctly. ONCE. I feel ashamed. 
Tuesday evening rolled around and my husband unloaded the dishwasher and did the supper dishes. It occurred to me to say thank you, I actually struggled with that. 

Wash the car, the Laundry can Wait!

Often times after we have been married to someone for awhile women tend to forget to be attractive to their husbands, we forget to flirt, to be sexy if you will. I am guilty of this. On the weekends I do loads and loads of laundry,  I will run around in sweats, yoga pants, tank tops with snot and oatmeal smeared on them and so on. At nap time I might take a shower but then again I might fold the laundry and clean the toilets while the baby snoozes. More then likely it will be the latter. I spend time making a big meal for the afternoon, I pull my hair in a ponytail and go outside to play. I forget what sexy even is! Men are visual creatures, including my man!

All in the eyes of a Boy

Brought this over from my other blog, written this past spring:

I have never been much for the Oklahoma great outdoors, the heat is so great and heavy. When I was young I got heatstroke a few times and that really ruined my love of the sunshine along with other childhood memories, many of which give me an emotional bad reaction to the sunshine. For years I could not open up my windows to let the breeze and sunlight in. Due to horrible memories you can forget about opening windows and spraying Lysol or Pinesol, I become emotionally unstable if someone mixes those smells. I prefer rain! When the rain is warm, it is time to go outside and play and I open windows then! Harmful emotional associations are a powerful thing!

Does the Bible say I have to be a stay at home wife/mom?

A few months ago I had an interesting conversation with a woman that is very special to me that got me thinking about the roll of a woman and whether or not it is Biblical for women to work away from the home and if all Godly women are supposed to be stay at home moms and wives.  In pondering this I have had several conversations with other women about this subject. Many women have a very narrow one sided view on the subject in one extreme or the other. So I set out to examine this subject and find out for myself what I believe based on the Bible.

VBAC Hypnobabies Birth Story - WARNING Detailed

December 18, 2011

We had an induction scheduled due to my 2 clotting disorders and being on Heparin. The OBs thought it was safer to deliver at 39 weeks when they could control my meds. I agreed to this know the meds etc can age the placenta and so on.